What to avoid like the plague if you want a long-lasting relationship

10838856_399235990201323_481919530_aSweeping things under the carpet is never a good thing. And yet – many couples think that when you don’t pay attention to the negatives in the relationship, or you just ignore them – with time they’ll go away. Let me tell you – relationship problems are like leaving bananas on the kitchen counter. As the time goes by – they will get rotten and unless you go and move them to the trash can yourself – they will start to smell. So, what can you do to not let your happy relationship end up in the trash like a rotten fruit?

1. Don’t ignore your negative feelings

Understand that a mature relationship is based on all of you, not just the happy, smiley, all accepting part of you. Both partners have a positive side and a negative side and they both go through a cycle of positive emotions and of negative emotions. And some of your negative emotions are going  to be towards your partner. Don’t go over the top when you voice them out but remember that it is always better to react than to not react at all.

2. Don’t hide your weaknesses

I know that it is sometimes safer to not show how much your partner has hurt you and that people tend to hide their shortcomings and weak points out of fear that their partner will use it against them. And quite often we try to keep our partner away from the hidden corners of our heart. Again, to protect ourselves from being hurt and from feeling pain. But this protecting is actually affecting your relationship because your partner will sense that you are not 100% with them. And we all know how that ends.

3. Don’t want to be constantly right

Every time you have an argument with your partner think about this: Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? In long-lasting relationships both partners are prepared to be wrong sometimes, to admit to their mistakes, to even agree to disagree. If you constantly insist on being right, knowing better, or winning the arguments – your partner will quickly start to feel unheard, not appreciated, and irritated by you. And yes, we know how that ends down the road.

4. Don’t ever use the word always in an argument

This word is like the plague – it kills the relationship faster than you can imagine. So, avoid generalizing at all costs. There’s always an example where your “always” is not true and your partner will come up with it right away and if you can’t see it, or refuse to see it that they are not always like that – they’ll feel disrespected. And respect is in the foundation of every good relationship.

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  1. Annmarie Piorkowski says:

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