Self Awareness Exercise

Let’s play a really fun game that only those with superiorintelligence can work out – others can’t. I did this myself and was really
amazed that it works as it was like nothing I would have expected. But really, its a game only for a special few.

VIP: You must follow the rules carefully, otherwise it won’twork. MOST IMPORTANTLY, you must play this game as you read it – you must AVOID reading ahead before doing it.

Now, are you ready?

Get a blank piece of paper and a pen. Draw a vertical line down the middle of the page. And in the top of the righthand side column, write M (MISERY), and in top of the lefthand side column, write H (HAPPINESS).

Now, imagine if there were two worlds. There is one where you are 100% miserable (M column), and in the other where you are 100% delightfuly happy (H column). In both of these worlds, all of the people around you are strangers to you. There are thousands upon thousands of strangers. Your partner does not exist, your children do not exist – wherever you look you see a stranger. Whoever you speak to, you are talking to are a stranger (ie someone you don’t know)

In the column marked “M”

Imagine the world where you are miserable, what are the other people like? Write 2 characteristics that define what they’re like. What are they seeing will be in their future? Write down 2 events that they believe will happen. What are their
responses to these events? Write next to the events what their responses were. What do they say to each other? Write 2 things they are likely to say to each other (remember they are in the miserable world). How do they behave to one another? Write down 2 things that they do to/ with / for each other.

In the column headed “H”

Imagine the world where you are 100% delightfully happy. what are the other people like? Write 2 characteristics that define what they’re like. What are they seeing will be in their future? Write down 2 events that they believe will happen. What are their responses to these events? Write next to the events what their responses were. What do they say to each other? Write 2 things they are likely to say to each other (remember they are in the miserable world). How do they behave to one another? Write down 2 things that they do to/ with / for each other.

Finally

In your 100% miserable world – What are the things you really like about the people, and what are the things that you don’t like about them? Write 2 things you like about these people and 2 things you don’t like about these people (and the answers can’t be “Nothing”)

In your 100% delightfully happy world – What are the things you really like about the people, and what are the things that you don’t like about them? Write 2 things you like about these people and 2 things you don’t like about these people.

People only respond to us in exactly the same way we respond to them. We can’t see how this is possible as we are stuck in the shithole and so all we see around us is shit. Not until we get out of the shithole can we actually see things clearly enough to do something about them.

Look at your answers.
In your 100% miserable world – all of these things, every one of them, is you when you allow other people to determine your level of happiness. In otherwords, you become all of these things when you give your power away to other people by allowing their responses and behaviours influence how you are feeling. NB: people can’t make you feel something unless you give your permission to let them.

In your 100% delightfully happy world – again you become all of these things when you take back your power from people by NOT allowing others behaviours and actions influence your feelings. That is you refuse to give them permission to affect you. Instead, you create your own happy feelings. How do you do this? Easy…. there are many instant ways to take your feelings from feeling down to feeling up …… just by your thoughts alone. No, it has nothing to do with positive thinking – it all has to do with working to a state of gratitude (which again there are many ways to achieve this – but you’ve done well enough with just this today as it is a lot to take in).

Just spend some time thinking about what you have learnt about yourself and how you can become more conscious of those aspects you don’t like about yourself. You’ll be amazed at the subtle but powerful change that just thinking about these things will do in your life – I can tell you what magic you will experience, but I’ll leave that to you to find out as by finding it out for
yourself makes it even more magical as you then experience it firsthand without any preconceived expectations.

This is just the beginning of life for you……………Congratulations on taking the courage to embark on this amazing journey as you have so much to gain.

Comments

  1. WOW Sue, that was very powerful and a great exercise to undertake. I have, in the past, been guilty of giving my power away and letting people put me in the shit hole on occasions, but I am slowly learning that I have the power to either let people ruin my day, or deny them that right. The more I deny them the right to ruin my day, the easier it gets for me to stop them from doing so thus giving me more confidence to believe in myself.

    Thank you!

    • Hi Sylvia

      thank you so very much for your feedback!! Believe it or not but this exercise came from a conversation I had with my own mother a couple of years ago – and a subsequent email I sent to her……I thought she’d feel rather confronted with what she found, but instead she did the exercise and found out so much about herself that she never realised. Awareness is 90% of the journey to “happiness” as we become self aware of our own “stuff that we carry…..and we become more and more enlightened in the process. Thanks so very much for your comment.

      love

      Sue

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