How To Build A Supportive Relationship


We grow up facing life’s challenges – some easy, some difficult. With each challenge or adversity that we overcome – we become stronger.  We also start to get more creative in protecting ourselves from being hurt by others by hiding our weaknesses. So we appear strong despite how we feel inside.  But when life gets really challenging, you want to be able to have your partner by your side, supporting you.  In order to achieve this successful relationship – you’ll need to do the opposite. You’ll need to be able to be vulnerable with your partner, and also be compassionate and supportive when your partner also feels vulnerable.  So how do you establish this vulnerability and trust between you?

1. Share the embarrassing moments in your life


These are the moments when you felt most vulnerable. Those embarrassing moments are those in which you wanted to look good, but instead you did or said something unexpected which ended up with you feeling awkward. We all think of ourselves as good people and when there’s something that shows us that in certain situations we are not – we react with shame or guilt. We kind of use these feelings to punish ourselves for what we did, say or think about. However, by sharing these moments with your partner, demonstrates that you are human, that you are prepared to be vulnerable and that you do have feelings – which can only build compassion and empathy and trust from your partner.

2. When was the last time you sang to yourself or your partner

You know, singing under the shower or while you cook, or while you’re driving is good for the soul. It releases endorphins and generates positive energy. It’s one of the three sure fire ways to show that you are happy (besides smiling and laughing). Happiness is contagious.  When was the last time you sang a song to your partner – no matter how off-key or tone deaf you are – singing to your partner will definitely bring a smile to your partner’s face.  Also, consider the lyrics – as the lyrics can say in song what you feel in your heart to them.

3. If you or your partner were to die tonight – what would you regret the most

We all live with the certainty that we’re growing old and things happen in life but death is far far away from us today. Until we get face to face with death – it could be something sudden – like a car accident or a sudden medical diagnosis. You never know. The point is – we forget that life can change in a second and we keep postponing to do things or say things that are really important. So, imagine – if life as you know, ended tonight. What would you be experiencing? What would you liked to have said, or done with your partner? Your loved ones? Have you recently said, “I love you”…….or “I forgive you?” Fortunately, you have your chance now – so take it!!

4. What are your most cherished and secret dream

We all have that one thing that we know it couldn’t happen, or could it? We secretly want to do something or become someone. We sometimes feel embarrassed to even admit it to ourselves. These are secret, secret wild dreams. Maybe you wanted to be a famous singer and go on tours, or to fly in space, or to leave your city life and go to live in a cabin in the woods, or to be a top model, or maybe try with acting. Trust me – everyone has that one secret thing that they truly want. Share your dreams together with your partner – and see what CAN BE POSSIBLE!

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