How couples’ fights are really good for the relationship

never give on someone you can't live a day withoutCouples fight. There’s no secret about it. But fighting can be a good thing. Differences of opinion are your weakest points. If both of you just pretend that there are things in your partner that you do not like – these little things over time will start driving you mad. But on the other hand your partner will have no clue at all that they do or say something that is irritating you over and over again. If things are left unchecked you can almost predict a bitter breakup in the near future.

So, here comes the fights. They are like going to the gym. You’ve put on some weight and now you go to the gym to burn the extra calories and get back in shape. Fights with your partner are exactly like that. You started to have things that drive you crazy about your partner, or started getting irritated at what they do or don’t do. And now is the time to express it.

Most couples are afraid of conflict in the relationship. They either fight too much or not at all because of this fear. And the fear is that conflicts can ruin your relationship. And it really can. Do you know why? Because in the heat of the argument people say things that they can’t take back. They hurt or insult their partner in a way that is unforgivable. They say things that they didn’t really mean. Or – they just want to be the one who wins the argument.

The end result of fights conducted in this way is crystal clear: bitter breakup and lots of time needed to heal from the breakup. Which is completely unnecessary and can be easily avoided. The first and foremost thing you need to do is change your perspective on what is the real purpose of fights. They help you to blow off steam, show what you don’t like in your partner or in the relationship,  help you connect with your partner on a deeper emotional level. And most of all – they are the glue that sticks you together.

So, next time you fight with your partner do this: breathe in all the passion you throw into the fight and make sure to match it with equally strong positive emotions. Keep the balance between the two, show your emotional side and you’ll have a long lasting relationship.

For a step-by-step approach to making these changes happen. Your first step is to go to

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